Identify Your Weak Spots Discuss How You Can Make Your Relationship Stronger A secure marriage is one where spouses are: (a) readily accessible to each other (i.e., is there when you need him/her), (b) responsive to each other’s emotional needs (including touch, affection, empathy), and (c) actively engage with the other whereby each gives the other their undivided attention. In other words, you make the other feel that s/he matters. Marriage counselors at Marriage Counseli ng Vienna VA and Marriage Counseling Herndon know how important a strong attachment is to healthy marriages. Herndon Marriage Counseling Herndon and Vienna VA Marriage Counseling understand that the weaker the marital bond, the more conflict or avoidance there will be. To help you in your marriage, use the two tables below to analyze how connected you are as a couple. Then discuss ways to help each other feel happier and more secure in your marriage. Self-Evaluation ...